HAVILAH BENDER

May 29, 2017
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“I think the scariest part is a fear of being alienated from the one group of people who are suppose to have your back through thick and thin. The good thing is even if your bio family never comes around you can always find love and support through the community and your chosen family of friends.”

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1. Where are you from and where do you live now?

I was born in Tyler TX and I currently live in Dallas TX.

2. Tell me a little bit about what you spend most of your days doing.

My days are usually filled with my kids, being a fashion stylist and yoga.

3. Give us a little insight into your backstory/upbringing…

I was raised very religious, mostly in a non-dominational church but was raised messianic Jewish. I come from a family of 6 kids, 5 brothers and me being the only girl. So to say I grew up a tomboy is a no brainer. I mostly went to homeschool co-ops and private Christian schools so I didn’t have a huge social circle or a lot of variety in my social settings.

4. What is your religious background?

Messianic Jewish

5. On a scale of 1 – 5 how supportive was your family when you came out? (1:Not supportive 5: ALL GOOD!)

4

6. Do you have a message to kids out there who come out and might not have the support of their families/friends?

Most of family and friends know, and the majority of my brothers were very supportive. I think the scariest part is a fear of being alienated from the one group of people who are suppose to have your back through thick and thin. The good thing is even if your bio family never comes around you can always find love and support through the community and your chosen family of friends.

7. Why do you feel that the simple message of the Promote Love Movement is important?

I think it breaks down barriers, that it helps to unite us as humans rather than further segregate and divide. It celebrates love of all kinds.

8. What kind of person do you want to be remembered as when you die?

Caring, compassionate and bold.

9. How do you feel like growing up in church played a part [positively or negatively] in shaping who you are?
There certainly was an unfounded guilt that I had to overcome because of my upbringing. Feeling shame for something innate about yourself is incredibly damaging to a persons psyche. But I am glad to have the personal experience that helps me relate to my peers.

10. Do you still attend church/religious gatherings?

NO

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